Complaining Might Actually Make Things Worse…..
A good friend and I always have deep discussions about how her constant complaining might be the blueprint for the drama that constantly occurs in her life. I believe that sometimes we get from the universe what we give. Negativity can breed negativity and my friend likes to play Chicken Little from time to time so I understand her rain cloud shadow. There’s nothing wrong with speaking on things that can go wrong but complaining often seems to make some situations worse. I ran across this article on complaining from Well + Good and I wanted to share it with you, it tells us that complaining is more than irritating, it may be unhealthy.
Whether it’s the traffic on your morning commute, the OMG annoying girl in front of you at Starbucks who keeps changing her order, or the fact that you can never get a front row bike in your favorite spin class, sometimes blowing off some steam in a major vent session feels really good. Therapeutic even.
But Negative Nancies and Debbie Downers beware: all that complaining can take a serious toll on your health, according to author Steven Parton.
Parton says that complaining can actually alter your brain and have serious repercussions on your mental health, Inc. reports. He explains that when you have certain thoughts, your brain goes through a rewiring process, making it easier to have that same thought again. So every time you think, “Ugh, a fully booked front row at exactly 12:01 again,” your brain is more likely to trigger that thought and feeling again in the future.
“Want to be happy? Surround yourself with happy people.”
And while the temptation to have bitch-and-moan-fests with your girlfriends is strong, especially after a long workday or when enduring a particularly crowded post-workout locker room situation, Parton says surrounding yourself with good company is key.